A friend whose husband passed away awhile ago recently told me that she was finally in a good place. She attributed it to finally accepting that she would never have her old life back, and did not even want many aspects of it back without her deceased husband. Instead of looking backwards, she started to look forward on where she wanted to go. There is a quote that states ... “There is a reason why your windshield is bigger than your rear view mirror. Where you are going is m

I recently had the luxury of spending two weeks in Massachusetts visiting with family and friends. Not only was the cool weather a welcome relief, but so was the priceless time with valued relationships. It did not matter what we were or were not doing ... what mattered was the time together just talking, laughing or at times crying together. Spending time with people you care about is really one of the best therapies to feeling better. Do you know why? Because they boost our

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Do you ever feel as though your mind is all over the place, and that you are challenged to get anything done because you just cannot focus? Our minds are just like a cup of muddy water. The longer you keep a cup of muddy water still, the more the mud settles down and the water will be seen clearly. Similarly, if you stop and let your body be still, your mind settles down. It really does not take that long to settle your mind. Give yourself 10 minutes and you will see that you

I strongly recommend the movie Top Gun: Maverick. Not only is it an action-packed feel-good movie that we can all use right now, but there are some very touching scenes as well. Without spoiling the movie, the biggest tear-jerk scene to me is when Val Kilmer (Iceman) explains to Tom Cruise (Maverick) that he needs to accept the future and let go of the past. Tom Cruise replies "I don't know how." One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go – whether it’s guilt, anger, lo

We all likely know how comforting it feels to receive undivided, unconditional positive attention, as well as how empty it feels to not have it in a time of profound need. At one point or another, everyone in our lives will need a safe space that is loving, nonjudgmental, and empathetic. This can be especially helpful when someone is in deep grief, struggling with unresolved trauma, or in the throes of depression. Sometimes people are not sure of what to do or say, but to avo

I've been watching some friends face the challenge of having to judge a person's suitability as they meet different men they have matched up with on dating applications. It is a challenging situation as we all fall into the trap of judging a person’s personality and appearance. But if we are looking at a person for an important role in our lives, we really want to understand their character which is based on their beliefs, e.g. whether honesty and treating others well is impo