Feeling That Way Because You Took It Personally?
This Week's Simple Tip
We've likely all experienced those times when we expected people to do something only to be surprised, disappointed or maybe even hurt when they did not. This happened recently with my 'tribe' who reunites every other year over MLK weekend. This time, three of the 10 did not come. Those of us who made the effort to be together were a bit perplexed. Shortly afterwards I started to read The Four Agreements, a practical guide to personal freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz. It really helped to clarify the human emotions we had. The book explains that each of our lives is uniquely imprinted based on our experiences, as beautifully demonstrated in the short clip below. What we say and do in our life is a projection of our own reality, and not necessarily intended as an action toward anyone personally. It is up to each individual to consciously hold back from taking what others do and say personally. In doing so, any emotions (like our perplexion) that lead to needless suffering, simply disappear.
This Week's Focus
This week, work on not taking things personally. Accept that all others are in a completely different existence than you based on their own story.
Click on the serenity sticky to print, cut and post on your bathroom mirror to remind you of this week's focus. Good luck!
A Little Helpful Hint
When was the last time you asked someone "What’s it like to be you right now?” Most of us don't go that deep to really understand someone's life. Therefore we can't honestly even begin to anticipate their actions.