Do You Miss Them?
I met someone this weekend who talked to me about how much she still misses her mother many years after she has passed. She said she easily tears up as she was doing while we talked.
I shared with her that I still miss my mother 30+ years later, and that it always makes me feel better when I talk to her. When you love someone, sometimes it feels like something hasn’t really happened until you’ve told them about it. You don’t have to stop communicating with someone you love just because they’ve passed on. You can talk to them, write a journal of the conversations you wish you could have with them, or even contact a medium for a more spiritual connection to your loved one.
If talking to them does not fit you or feel fulfilling, there are other ways of coping with death that may be more suitable:
Honoring their legacy by finding something that was important to your loved one, and bringing it into your life as a way to remember them, e.g. through volunteering, building a bench in their name, etc.
Creating a memory corner in your home with a favorite photo, tokens from your time together like shells, ticket stubs, etc.
Talking to their friends and family. You’re probably not the only person who misses your loved one. Talking to other people who loved them like their friends and family will help you remember them.
Coping with death is very individual. These tips help me, and I hope they will help you as well.
This Week's Focus:
This week, remember that it’s ok to be sad. You should never forget your loved ones; you just want to be able to get through the day without missing them too much.
Click on the serenity sticky to print, cut and post on your bathroom mirror to remind you of this week's focus. Good luck!